Episode Summary
In this inspiring episode, host Roy Smalley shares personal stories of failure and redemption, exploring why one bad experience shouldn't define you. From a disastrous first run that nearly ended his fitness journey to a mortifying 5th-grade audition for "Oliver!" that silenced his singing dreams, Roy reveals how second chances - fueled by coaching, empathy, and self-grace - led to triumphs in triathlons, marathons, theater, and beyond. Perfect for first responders and anyone facing setbacks, this episode reminds us that life's detours can lead to unexpected passions. Tune in for practical lessons on resilience, managing anxiety, and paying encouragement forward.
Episode Length: ~17 minutes
Release Date: 2 Aug 2025
Related Article: https://roysmalley.substack.com/p/the-power-of-trying-again
Key Topics Covered
Roy's 2006 failed running attempt and how triathlon reignited his passion, leading to dozens of races, marathons, and ultramarathons.
The embarrassing 5th-grade "Oliver!" audition, the unsupportive "best friend," and swearing off singing - only to discover a hidden talent in high school.
Parallels between running and theater: overcoming initial failures through coaching, mindset shifts, and trying again.
Lessons on not letting one bad experience close doors, ignoring critics, managing anxiety by reframing it as excitement, and giving yourself (and others) grace.
The ripple effect of encouragement: How one teacher's empathy changed Roy's life, and how you can pay it forward.
Actionable advice for first responders: Dealing with criticism in high-stakes environments and embracing growth outside comfort zones.
Memorable Quotes
"I was convinced by one bad experience that running was not for me. How many of us let one bad experience close a door forever?"
"Excitement and nervous anxiety have the same physiological symptoms. The difference is the mindset - if you have a positive mindset, you can change that anxiety into excitement and use that energy."
"Don't let one bad experience ruin you for something. If you're trying something for the first time, no one does anything great the first time."
"Give yourself some grace and some room to grow, and accept that grace from others too."
"Sometimes all it takes is one person's encouragement to completely change your story... Who can you encourage today?"
Call to Action
Revisit an old fear or try something new you've sworn off - give it a second chance! Or support someone else's journey by offering encouragement. Share your own story of overcoming failure or receiving life-changing support - Roy wants to hear it and may feature it in a future episode (with your permission). Reach out via email, text, social media, or comments, and let's build a community of brave growth.
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